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Prepare Children Against Inappropriate Sexual Advances
 

The truth in regards to child sexual abuse is that it can occur anywhere, anytime when the victim least expects it and is the most under-reported crime. Children who have gone through the harrowing experience of being sexually molested may end up blaming themselves for the whole incident. Some are too frightened or ashamed to tell their parents. Worse, some do not even understand what has happened to them is wrong.


What kind of behaviour is associated with child sexual abuse? There are many types, ranging from inappropriate touching, fondling, voyeurism, exposure to pornography, to full forced intercourse and sadistic acts.

It is the duty of the parents to talk to their children on this topic no matter how uncomfortable they may feel. First, tell your children no one has the right to touch their bodies or to do anything that makes them uncomfortable. Tell them that this does not apply to strangers alone but also to uncles, brothers, Grandpa and others whom the child knows and trusts.
 

The truth in regards to child sexual abuse is that it can occur anywhere, anytime when the victim least expects it and is the most under-reported crime. Children who have gone through the harrowing experience of being sexually molested may end up blaming themselves for the whole incident. Some are too frightened or ashamed to tell their parents. Worse, some do not even understand what has happened to them is wrong.
 
If the child is told that what has happened just awhile ago is a “secret” between the uncle and herself, reassure her that you will not blame her for whatever an adult does.

The next lesson involves teaching your children how to react if someone does touch them in a way that makes them feel uncomfortable. They need to be able to look that person straight in the eye and tell him or her to stop by saying, “No, I don’t like that” and then try to get away. This will alert the abuser that the child is not going to sit there and accept the abuse. If the abuser persists in his action even after the child has said no, the child can warn him that she is going to scream if he refuses to stop. The abuser will know that the child is not to be messed with.

If an incident similar to the above scenario happens to your child, help her by naming all the people she could tell such as parents, siblings, friends, teachers, doctors, nurses, etc., so that help would be available.

Finally, in order to make them fully understand what constitutes sexual abuse and what they can do about it is by role-playing. For instance, play the game of “What if…” with them by giving examples of situations and asking them what they would do. Follow this with role playing the situation and have them act out what they need to do to protect themselves. Role playing helps the child reinforce her memory of what needs to be done better than just listening to a lecture on such a topic.

The crime of child sexual abuse should not be tolerated. In this country, perpetrators can be punished under the Penal Code, the Child Protection Act 1991, the Women and Girls’ Protection Act 1973 and the Child Act 2001.

A child victim of sexual abuse should not only receive medical attention but also counseling from a professional. Studies have shown that adults who were sexually abused when they were young may grow up suffering from many psychological problems such as depression, panic attacks, sexual dysfunction, substance abuse or addiction etc. if they did not receive psychological help. Sexual abuse is a crime that leaves long term repercussion on its victims and as responsible adults, it is our duty to protect our children – by being open and honest in explaining to them about it and what to do if they find themselves in a sexually abusive situation.
 

 

 

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